Moving beyond trauma and finding yourself authentic self

Moving beyond trauma can be a journey of self discovery to find your true authentic self underneath what has been embodied. Deciding to work through your past trauma takes courage and a willingness to show up for yourself. We will go on a journey together, exploring many angles and using many different techniques to overcome your past and help you live more freely in the now.

Are you wanting to live your life from free choice, on your terms, being who you were truly meant to be, not how you got taught to be:

• Do you want to live in the now, be present & show up for your life?

• Do you want to gain inner trust, belief & faith in yourself?

• Do you want to intensify your inner power & connect to yourself fully - so you are not held back in unhelpful patterns?

• Do you want to access your inner wisdom & knowledge in your daily life?

• Do you want to learn how to listen to the messages which your body sends you constantly & reclaim your inner balance?

• Do you want to unlearn self-doubt, guilt & sabotage?

• Do you want to free yourself from past anger & hurt, from unhelpful patterns & uncertainty?

• Do you want to use daily triggers & difficulties as gifts rather than pushing away & feeling like a victim? (Turning poison into medicine, turning events into lessons, letting interactions teach you & aid your life, rather than hold you back)

• Do you want to be free & walk your own path with confidence, grace & joy?

• Do you want to be more effortlessly happy & content no matter what is actually happening?

After 25 years of working as a therapist, equal years of meditation and mindfulness, and, a life time of seeking the truth - I can share all I know with you and I am privileged to keep learning from each and every client who I work with. Some people come into our lives for a short period and leave a big imprint in our hearts, others stay longer and leave a different imprint, I see that we all impact each other and there, right there, are the most valuable lessons in front of us all - lets learn from them and use them to help set us free.

As Ram Dass says, “ Be here now”.

"All the past and future—everything you always were is in this moment. All of your commitments for the future are in this moment. The fullness of this moment includes everything; it doesn't exclude. It doesn't exclude past and future. All we're dealing with is the problem that the human mind clings. The clinging of the human mind takes it into time and into space, and it takes it away from the fullness of the moment. So that in the most exquisite practice, like the practice of Vipassana, one keeps extricating oneself from identification with thoughts about past and future by noting them and then coming back to the present moment. The reason the breath is so good to work with is it's always around, it's right there, and it's easy." – Ram Dass on the practice of 'being here now'

I am not a spiritual teacher, although it can have flavours of this practice, because when we go into the now, into the origins of how, why we got derailed it can touch many practices, many angles and many different models of therapy - “I am a collection of all my life, all of my life’s experiences, all of my trainings, including all of the teachers who have impacted me and nothing is separate from the other”, Sharon Mills.

Releasing shame is empowering and when we move past our conditioned selves, to become connected to our true selves, we are able to see our journey more clearly.

Love/Rage, Pleasure/Pain, Happy/Sad, black/white - opposites are interesting to understand and linked to doing inner shadow work, they can help to show the way to what is still unknown, hidden, or pushing us to act out…….. Let`s wake up to some of the mysteries of life and being a human being.

We often keep falling into old patterns and then become hard on ourselves - we will work on seeing these patterns more deeply and clearly so that we are able to cross over the pavement and not fall in each time.

“I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost... I am helpless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn't my fault.
It still takes me a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in. It's a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault. I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down another street.”
―Portia Nelson,There's a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery

Challenges for Therapy:

It can be challenging to make change happen. I often get clients coming having done lots of past therapy and still struggling for deeper, longer lasting change. Sometimes we can get stuck in the past where something was overwhelming and we weren’t able to process it fully and move on. By revisiting the difficult moment, we are able to free this up, see our blind spots and where we get stuck.

There is a saying in Buddhism “No mud, no lotus.” The lotus flower blossoms in the mud, opening up and blossoming there in the mud. Finding inner bliss and peace while we may come from muddy places. It can be one a core teaching that nature provides for us when we come from difficult backgrounds, we can shine, blossom and be free to embody ourselves as we truly are if we work through the trauma and seek the truth. If we dont run away from our shadow side, the dark side they say, because its where we put all the rubbish that we didn`t want, or that which was just too painful to bear at the time.

Finding our infinite treasure from deep inside of us helps us to set ourselves free and live an authentic life …………….

“Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma is what happens inside you, as a result of what happens to you.”

— Gabor Maté

Differentiation is the ability to balance the autonomy and the attachment so it is not an either/or. The ability to not be caught up in our childhood drama when the triggers in the now, trigger something from the past – being free to respond in the now.

“Stagnation is the foundation of all pathology”, The yellow emerpor`s classic of medicine, by Maoshing N.I.